Ooooh…this is a tough one girls. The dreaded situation that would feel like utter death for most of us.

I know this sucks and hurts like hell, to be here in this predicament with your man, but there are things you can do and try in order to (hopefully) get back what you had and lost.

Self-Pity and Self-Hatred Will Only Make Things Worse

Of course it's very normal and understandable to be feeling this way; your self-esteem might not have been that great to begin with. If your guy actually admitted verbally that he does not want you sexually anymore, then essentially your ego and your confidence were both just ran over by an 18-wheeler.

You can't let yourself linger here in these states of mind. You know deep down that pitying and hating yourself won't help you accomplish or fix anything.

Pinpoint the Main Causes

Work out a timeline and piece together when exactly it was when he lost the attraction to you. Knowing when will help you figure out all the why's.

Did you gain weight? Do something to your hair hat looks hideous? Did you stop doing your girlie things like your hair and makeup routine every day?

Time for Soul-Searching: How Much do You Care? What Are You Willing to do?

You've already been subjected to soul-crushing criticisms; now, you're in an even harder situation.

You will either have to work your ass off in order to look good to him again, or face the same criticisms. Or worse, it might be one and then the other with no reprieve or satisfaction for you at any point.

Do You Want to do This For Him? Or Are You Over It?

It's time to consider how you really feel about your man. Just because a man can hurt your feelings does not necessarily mean that you're in love with him.

Usually women, by nature, desperately want to be wanted physically and thought of as sexy by the guy they are in love with. If you've let yourself go physically, that raises warning signs. You may not even carry a torch for him any longer.

If this is the case, tell the guy to get lost.

If You're Still Dying to Rock His World…

If you still love him and want to get the physical aspect of the relationship back on track, you have to be committed to your efforts and not slack off.

First, you need to determine the amount of weight you want to lose and how long it will take. The resources available to you will depend upon your schedule and income.

Get Your Motivation

Get online and go to one of your favorite sites and create a wishlist there if you don't have one already.

With your ideal size that you're soon going to be in your head, shop for fabulous outfits and a whole new wardrobe. Put everything in your wishlist for now, and print it out if you want to keep it with you to look at whenever you want.

Keep in mind that you're doing all this for YOU, not your man. Life has no guarantees, and you cannot rely 100% on anybody. You have no guarantee that your guy will be around next week, but you and your body and health will be.

It Might Have Been a Lie…

Finally, you cannot ignore the very real possibility that your man was completely full of it when he said he no longer wanted you sexually.

Why would he say this if he didn't mean it? There are a lot of reasons, and none of them are good.

Basically, all the motivations that he would have for saying this when it wasn't true boil down to two possibilities: 1. He's gay, or 2. He's messing around, and was cheating for probably the entire duration of your relationship.

If you even slightly suspect either of these, then reclaim your freedom and single status ASAP and get rid of the loser.

The iPhone 4 has hit the shelves and it is, without a doubt, the best smartphone on the market. I had heard from a friend of mine that he had found a way to get an Apple iPhone for free, which of course, I did not believe, so I decided to investigate and find out more.

There is one major drawback with the new Apple iPhone, and that is the price. Depending on your situation and which iPhone you want (16gb or 32gb), the price can range anywhere from $200 to $500. I don't know about you, but that is a lot of money to pay for a phone. There are many laptops cheaper than this phone.

Naturally, when I heard there was a way to get this new iPhone for free, I had to check it out. I found the website and immediately put in my email address and was sent all the information about the free iPhone 4. Why would a company give away free iPhones? They do this for a couple of reasons. First, they know that once you get your hands on this phone, they've got you hooked for life. You don't find companies giving away junk items for free. They give away the good stuff, because they know you are going to want to buy one when the newer ones come out. Second, the companies give away the phones, because it helps them with feedback on what they can do better, what is working right, and what is not working right. You are essentially a tester for the company and they want you to give them feedback as you use the phone.

This turns into a great bargain for everyone. You, the consumer, can get your hands on the latest, greatest iPhone on the market and the company gets invaluable feedback for building the next generation of their product.

There is a catch, though, and that is that these offers do not stay out there forever. Once the company gets the number of testers that they are looking for, then they will pull the offer, so if you are interested then you should get on it immediately. Also, by putting in your email address, you can get all the information sent directly to your inbox.

Most guys are baffled when it comes to how to approach women. They fear rejection or looking stupid so they just do nothing. That is no way to get the woman you want! In reality, approaching even the most beautiful woman in the room is simple. All you have to do is identify the opportunity and seize it.

A lot of guys will see a hot woman and just sit there and stare. They hope the woman will make a move or give them an undeniable sign to come and talk to them. Women want to be pursued; they want an alpha male who will go after what he wants when he sees it. If you hesitate, she will categorize you in the friend zone and not give you a second thought as a potential sexual partner.

The first step in learning how to approach women is to train your mind to go after what you want without hesitation. If you start thinking about being rejected or not being successful your body language and mind will project that into the real world and you won't have any success. The only way to learn to just go for it is to just do it. Practice makes perfect and the more you do it, the less you will hesitate. If you can master this basic step in approaching women, you are way ahead of most guys out there.

To help you be able to more easily approach women, envision doing it over and over again. Picture what she looks like, what she smells like, how you will walk up to her, what your body language is saying, what you will say and so on. Picture all of this vividly in your mind and you will train your subconscious to accept it and not hesitate when a real situation comes up.

Once you are able to approach any woman you want, it's time to work on what you will say once you're there. Pick up lines are for kids and immature guys; women know this and will write you off no matter how clever you think your line is. Just walk up with a smile on your face and say, “Hi.” It's that easy!

Even if you're a bumbling idiot when it comes to talking to women, you can easily engage any woman you want in conversation by following this simple rule. Just talk to her like she's a buddy of yours. Speak to her casually and don't come off like you're only after sleeping with her, even if that is all you're after. By being a real person, but someone who is clearly interested in her, she will lower her defenses and open up to you.

Now that she sees you as someone she might want to be with and learn more about, disengage from conversation with her. This will throw her for a loop. She thought she had all the power because you came over to her and she “let” you talk to her. Now you're moving on. Re-engage her later and establish you're still interested. This will take her confidence down a level and make her want you even more.

When it comes to learning how to approach women you need to understand them, yourself and psychology. Follow the simple steps above and you're success will only continue to grow.

Here are some (almost) fool-proof ways to get your answer about that guy you've been crushing on and find out if he wants you back:

Go Right Ahead and Ask Him

If you're a brave and confident gal, this is a simple problem to solve. All you have to do is get him alone, make him laugh and get him comfortable with you if you aren't close friends and/or haven't known each other long.

When the timing is right, make your move and drop the question on him.

If you are a little more shy or want to be more subtle but still want your answer, you can always talk to someone else…

Say The Right Words to The Right Person

If you pick the right person for this, it can work wonders. Out of all his buddies, (not the casual friends, but the closer friends who have known him a long time), pick the one you are most comfortable with who is not a loud-mouth or always acting out for attention.

Once you choose the right guy, pick the right time and have a little chat with him. Start with neutral topics and just have a good conversation with the guy. When your instinct tells you it's the right time, mention something about your crush. You can ask a question about your possible future boyfriend, or be more blunt and tell his friend how adorable you think he is. Chances are, you will get either an immediate answer from his buddy if it's a mutual thing with your crush; or, you might get an answer via positive reaction if/when his friend tells him what you said.

Pay Attention

You can get information without being too obvious just by being connected to him via Facebook or another social networking site. If you can be subtle about it, you can learn a lot about him just by observing his behavior with other people (particularly other females).

Then you can compare that behavior with how he acts around you, which can be very interesting.

The Jealousy Test

This test has been used by both women and men forever, but I'm convinced women invented it. All you have to do is accept a date with another guy or have a male friend fill in as a faux date or boyfriend. Just make sure your male friend doesn't like you and you guys are strictly platonic. It's even better to have a gay guy friend do this. Or, you can choose to not even actually “use” another guy and just talk to your crush about one instead.

How he reacts is very important and can sum up the question for you. Don't be too upset if he doesn't show jealousy, as he might just be really good at hiding his emotions.

The Lipgloss Test

The next time you two hang out or find yourselves working on something together, pick a time when things slow down a bit. Get out your favorite lipgloss and apply it slowly as you pretend to be concentrating on something else. If he watches you do this, try to get his reaction out of the corner of your eyes or look up at him.

Make sure you don't pick a brightly-colored gloss. It's better if it's a plumping gloss that clear or a moisturizer; the most important thing is that it's a wand applicator and a product you can explain away as a treatment you apply all the time. You never want to appear as though you're trying too hard.

The Perfume Test

This test is great because it creates a scent memory of you in his mind, and it also initiates physical contact. Put a somewhat-heavy amount of a light perfume on both your wrists. Sniff them when he's around, pretending like you're pondering as you smell your skin.

Ask him if he likes the perfume by offering him your wrist. If it's a good scent and a good vibe, you should get a reaction that will make you happy. Then, you wait for the next time the two of you are together. Wear the perfume again, this time on your neck as well and wherever else you apply it. If he smells you and says something about the perfume, remembering it, then congrats! You have successfully created a scent memory for him, and chances are high that he digs you.

You'll know the perfect perfume to use if it's light enough to not make him faint but still very sexy.

Put Your Friends on High-Alert

Make sure your friends know that you have a huge crush on the guy, and put them alert by asking them to keep their eyes and ears open.

They'll be able to fill you in on anything they see or hear that you may miss, such as if he's seeing anyone, ex-girlfriend info, etc. As an added bonus, if your girlfriends are particularly social, chances are they'll make friends with your crush's friends. This means group hangouts and many golden opportunities for you.

Dating can be a dilemma at times. You know that what you want to do is to attract more women, and be seen as the kind of guy that they want to date. You also know that you do not want to be put in the friends category with a woman. Well, then you go and do what you think will make her want to date you and… you end up right in the friends category, right where you did NOT want to be.

Here are 3 tips on how to make women want to date you:

1. If you want to be the one that she wants to date, then you need to be a little more straight forward.

Most guys think that they are doing the “right” thing by acting like they are not really trying to get a date with a woman. They think that the more friendly they appear, she will just naturally want to date them. Well, that is more likely to get her thinking of you as being just a friend than anything else. If you want to get a date with her, you have to be straight forward and not tip toe around the fact that you are not trying to be her friend.

2. You need to approach her with confidence.

When approaching a woman, you have to keep in mind that she will be making a judgement of you right away. She can't help it, it's the way that people are, including women. If when you approach her, she gets the sense that you totally lack confidence in yourself, then she is naturally going to feel a lot LESS attraction towards you. You might not think that this is fair, but it is just the way that it is.

3. You need to make her want you by making yourself look like the alpha male.

Humans are still pretty much wired the same way that they were thousands of years ago, and this explains why the alpha male always seems to do a lot better than a total wimp when it comes to attracting women. Back then, a total wimp meant that she probably would not survive and although that may not be the case today, women are still wired to make their judgments based on this. You need to be able to really give off the impression that you are the alpha male if you want to attract the woman that you want.